When newlyweds are young and in love and wrapped in the whirlwind of excitement that comes with a wedding celebration, how seriously do we stop and contemplate what it means to love, honor and cherish our spouse for better or for worse? For better is the easy part, but how do we handle seasons of “for worse”?
Married folk, have you been in a “for worse” situation where you had to love, honor and cherish your spouse when the conditions made it extremely difficult to do so? How did you handle it? Did you care for and serve your spouse with grace and compassion? How did you handle it when your own “self” cried out louder than the needs of your spouse?
My husband has a bad infection in his foot that has caused him a great deal of pain for the past 10 days. At first I happily carried on, doting over him and ensuring he had everything within reaching distance while I was away so that he didnt have to get on his feet for anything. However, after about 5 days of this and seeing no improvement, my “flesh” creeped in and this awful selfish person took over my body and my mouth. I grew impatient and frustrated with the situation, but it came across as being frustrated with my husband — which I was NOT at all frustrated with him. But it sounded that way. And it felt that way to him. And I felt terrible for causing him to feel that way on top of the pain he was in.
The truth is, no matter how great of a marriage we have, there will inevitably be times where selfishness will threaten to take over, especially when we are called to love, honor and cherish in seasons of “for worse.”
In times like these I simply cannot fathom how anyone can do that successfully without the power of God enabling them to do so.
Agree or Disagree?
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Additionally, I think that, as wives, we have a huge opportunity to really minister to our husbands’ need for respect in how we handle and respond to our men during seasons of “for worse.” It certainly isn’t easy, especially if the season of “for worse” is far longer than your patience can bare. But thats where we have to rely on God to enable us to stay true to our vows and minister during these seasons of “for worse” while showing our men that they still have our respect, despite their circumstances.
As for my own selfishness, God helped me shut it down by showing me ways that I could go above and beyond in serving my husband in this season of “for worse.” This whole foot infection came in the midst of several major home improvement projects that left our small little one bedroom in complete disarray. I will be the first to admit that I am terrible at organization, but somehow God helped me to make major headway on getting the place organized. So thats what I did, and somewhere between “self” and “service” I discovered that going above and beyond what is required of me in seasons of “for worse” made a huge impact on my attitude and my heart as I served.